...leadership

...read quite a number of leadership books over the past few years…but not many impress me or challenge my own beliefs and thoughts about leadership…i found most books are quite similar in contents and discuss about the same things…same tips same advises…but there is one book i like…the one authored by Dale Carnegie…the book is not about leadership but more about human relations…how to win friends and influence people…one does not have to show power or authority to lead…not all the time at least…like Mr Carnegie i also believe that leadership is about trust…a very simple rule…a leader needs to win the trust and confidence of his/her subordinates…especially people around him/her…without that one can never lead…but i recently notice the emergence of a new style of management…interrogation or mafia like…which make me feel really sick…probably one forgets one needs to 'gain' the respect…how do you feel when someone was rude to you and didn't hold you with much regard?...how did you feel?...annoyed?...peeved?...i think being authoritative and directive only show one’s lack of quality and idea...one just need to open one's eyes wider and listens more...being 'honest' or 'truthful' can't be the reasona for bad behavior...as there are better ways to say NO for example...like Warren Buffet's style...he just wrote a letter to his CEOs once a year reminding them of their responsibility to the shareholders...a good reminder to us all especially myself...cheers

...kids and human relation

...my family and i went to Hong Kong last month…of course the place we would not miss was Disneyland…i have four kids but the happiest one was my youngest daughter…she was so happy by the time we boarded the airplane…just can’t stop smiling all the way to HK…she was so excited and already planned to buy souvenirs to her friends and teacher…and to tell them about her exciting trip to HK…we especially the kids had real fun there…visited Disneyland and of course some shopping…my daughter was so busy when we visited souvenir shops…no worry as her dad will pay all the bills...these are for my friends and those good ones are for my best friends (she had 4 best friends) and favourite teachers…she thought they must be very happy to have those souvenirs…we flew back to Penang after 4 days and 3 nights in HK…we arrived home after mid night…instead of going to sleep my daughter was busy organizing the souvenirs to her friends, her favourite class teacher and of course her school books…she slept around 2am that night…however, when  i came back from work the next day, i saw her sad face…she did not greet as usual...i hugged her and asked why she looked sad…she then told me she gave all the souvenirs she bought in HK to her friends, best friends and her favourite teacher…but…she told me the teacher did not say anything to her …she just gave a plain look at the gift, took it and continued with her work without saying a word or showed any emotion of thanks…that’s very rude i said to myself…she should have at least smile and say thank you…i tried to calm my daughter by saying i’m sure she likes your gift and appreciate it very much…may be she’s busy with her work and forget to say thank you…at least all your friends are happy and appreciate your gifts… that event took her 3 days to forget…sometimes kids are better than grown ups when it comes to human relation ain’t it?…

...nasyid songs

...i was driving around jitra this evening when i heard a loud speaker playing popular nasyid songs by maher zain...i then realized that the songs came from an electronic shop offering sales items...i know the shop is owned by a chinese so i wonder why it played the nasyid songs...aha now i know...majority of population in jitra are malays (moslems)...i slowly passed through the shop...yeah majority of the customers are malays...so i guess its marketing strategy works very well...but its kinda like a chinese or non-moslem owned banks offering islamic banking products or a non-moslem insurance agents selling islamic insurance or a non-moslem company producing and selling halal products to moslems...weird ain't it? but please don't get me wrong...i am not blaming non-moslems...they also buy islamic banking and islamic insurance products...i just wonder where are the moslem entrepreneurs...